Dark Tantra the Sacred Path thru Dark Eros

Would you like to be able to discuss and/or explore the full range of your Erotic desires, from mild to the darkest edge, at a pace that is right for you, without expectations or judgments? Would you value a well-versed, experienced confidante who can mentor you on your journey to your sacred sexual truth?

My intensive exploration of the sacred, spiritual, psychological, emotional and ritual aspects of Eros, D/s, BDSM, Tantra, Quodoshka and others, as well as my personal work and training in shadow work, conscious movement, touch and ritual pratices, has led me to the path of Erotic guide, mentor, coach and healer. My intention is to help you honor and encourage what is true for you, sexually and otherwise.

Within the safety of a discreet, private, comforatble setting, the dark or hidden aspects of your personal Eros can be called forth in a way that can be physically, emotionally and spiritually transforming. This may require exploration of the "gatekeepers", the parts of you that have held your authentic Eros in check. Some of our work together may include considering how these gatekeepers - judgments ("this is immoral, dangerous, sick or disgusting" ), shadows ( denial, sneaking behind a partner's back, sexual addictions, compulsive behaviors), and emotional wounds we might carry ("I'm not attractive, sexy, worthy") effect getting what you truly desire.

Before scheduling a session, we would do an initial interview (in-person or by phone) to discuss your intention, desires, fears, experience, and soft and hard boundaries. I will also answer any and all questions. From there we would work together to outline an opening in-person session and schedule a time together. Sessions usually range from 1.5 to 3 hours.

 

Dark Tantra Sessions Overview

Our sessions together may include straightforward compassionate, nonjudgmental discussion and supportive guidance; techniques to deeply relax you and get you connected to your body; exploration of the fears and self-judgments that have held your Eros back; and specific, safe, negotiated explorations of what you desire. The processes used may include Tantric oriented body work, conscious movement, shadow work, strategic planning to help you get to your goals, and specific "scenes", negotiated to explore aspects of D/s, BDSM, or Fetish.

Discussion
Tantra
Bodywork
Movement – solo and in tandem with me
Shadow Work
Strategic Action Plan
Dark Tantra - specific scenes negotiated to explore aspects of D/s, BDSM, or Fetish

Discussion

Discreet, confidential, compassionate, nonjudgmental, straightforward talk and questions, about any aspect of Eros and issues and conflicts that may be blocking your true desires.

Tantra

A Tantra session begins with getting present. We would take some moments to sit quietly and just breathe. Long slow conscious breaths, to slow everything down. The intention at this stage is to help you drop out of your head, stories, judgments, self-judgments, fear, shame, compulsions...all the external issues and concerns that keep you distracted, disembodied and not fully present. From here we can begin the journey into sacred Eros through touch, breathe and meditation on the sacred aspects of your erotic soul. The intent is to channel the desires and experience of Eros from the lower chakras and raise them up and through the crown chakra. This experience illuminates, energizes and relaxes the whole body by transforming raw sexual energy into a sacred, sensual, erotic, full-body and soul experience. The outcome can be to fully release all tension in the body and relish the pleasure of erotic fulfillment sans stories, fantasies and compulsions in the mind.

Bodywork

I am an intuitive body worker. I do a form of sensual, deep, penetrating, full-body contact massage. This will include use of hands and fingers, forearms, shins, chest and torso, in a gliding, stretching, counter-stretching, massaging motion that creates deep connection and presence within your own body.

This helps to reduce “dis-ease” in your body and you can begin to feel how good it can be to just be in your body in a relaxed, aware state. It is healthy to give yourself a respite from all the stories, worries, fears, compulsions that may have been keeping you spinning in your head (disconnected from your body) before you began the session.

Another aspect is working in specific areas of the body that may have been identified as a place where you hold the emotions that have not been allowed to express. Emotions express thru the body. There are thousands of physical gestures related to emotional expression. They involve muscular contraction or tension. A smile for instance, or a frown. When we hold back or try to hide emotion, we use counter-muscular tension to hold at bay the muscles that are used to express the emotion. The emotion gets literally stuck between these two muscular tensions and accumulates with every episode. We feel knots, aches, tightness in the chest, abdomen, shoulders, jaw and other places. These tensions may have been with you for decades.

There can be a lot of benefit to your physical and emotional well-being from pressure and touch that can physically break up and move these stored tensions into a state of release and relief. It is not unusual or unexpected for the emotion to release as well, in the form of tears, shuddering, angry gestures and other body analogs of the emotion.

Movement

Conscious movement of the body dissolves the stories and distractions that keep you stuck in your head.

Most of us have never received any guidance about being present in and moving in our bodies. Some of us are very athletic and graceful in certain ways, but have not experienced the full capability of the body from a place of awareness and intention. Others feel awkward, uncomfortable and disconnected from their bodies in all, or particular situations.

Conscious movement helps you find your own natural physical expression, your personal dance so to speak, the way your body was personally designed to move. It can be a practice that develops into a form of personal yoga. You can learn to become conscious, when you move a certain way, of tensions or restraint you may be feeling in some part of the body. You learn to sense how to compress or stretch your movements into or away from those points in the body to bring release and flexibility.

I support you by offering guidance and observation and moving with you. Together we create a safe, nonjudgmental atmosphere to allow your natural movement to begin to come into your body. Sometimes this movement will be solo or it can also be movement done in tandem with me.

Connecting with, releasing tension and getting more comfortable in your body is the outcome.

Shadow Work

The shadows are protectors that formed when we were young and show up in your present life and relationships in ways that hide or protect other parts of you. These operate at the unconscious level. They can lead you to be out of integrity, be irresponsible, secretive, passive-aggressive or aggressive, damaging your relationship to yourself and others important to you. These can be triggered by situations and things that look like, sound like, feel like something similar to what brought the protector to life in the first place. A protector persona might be aloof, hot-headed, compulsive, shut-down, needy, cruel, confused and many others. It is protecting a part of you that at a vulnerable time in life was traumatized, abandoned, unloved or terrified in some way. The protector is determined to keep that from happening again. While it does protect a vulnerable part of you, and came about for good reason, at the time, it is also a double edged sword. The armor it creates around your vulnerable places keeps things from getting in, but also blocks your ability to get out. To grow and mature. You get stuck in patterns in your relationships, career, and sexuality that repeat themselves over and over.

Shadow work is an intensive, experiential, ritual process that safely explores the origins of these shadows to bring them into conscious awareness and begin resolution to the unresolved emotions that the shadow is holding back.

See coaching for more about Shadow Work.

Strategic Action Plan

Walk your talk. I support you to create a detailed action plan that points you toward your goals step by step, timelines and all. This involves creating the long term goal and the weekly aspects you want to include in your action plan. I will help you be accountable to the agreements you make with yourself.

Specific Scenes negotiated to explore aspects of D/s, BDSM, Fetish

Submission

I welcome those just starting out and those more experienced in their exploration, who would enjoy a safe, compassionate, mentor-oriented haven for their personal growth in the protocols of being a service submissive in a D/s context.

The other aspect is in exploration of BDSM, which can include various levels of bondage, impact toys such as floggers and whips, psychological Dominance, punishment, humiliation, embodying of specific personas, use of plugs, probes, clamps and anything that can be done safely.

My training process for submissives is focused on a safely paced exploration of your desires. In this context, you are in ultimate control. We start in your comfort zone. From there, you set boundaries, pace, stop to ask questions. You will be given safe-words to use to stop any activity at any time.

Surrender and release of control occurs organically as the levels of trust unfold. Within your boundaries, I work to help you fully embody your submission in tone, emotion, act and intensity.

Domination

I can mentor you in finding and drawing out your natural Dominant style. There is no one way, but there is your way. It is about learning to embody this aspect of you to the fullest extent. In some cases, I can provide a submissive for assistance in teaching the dynamics of psychological control and safe play techniques and practices, or you may include your own submissive.

I can also mentor you in how to be more successful in attracting play partners or the submissive partner of your dreams.

While there are distinct differences between male and female Doms, many of the dynamics and protocols of power exchange are the same for either gender.

D/s Couples

If you are new to this path or want to deepen your current experience, I offer coaching in the dynamics of power exchange and ritual BDSM for couples. I hold space for you both to express your desires and at times your fears of being in an intimate D/s relationship. I can help you work through the inevitable conflicts that can arise in taking this path, and show you how to use ritual to take intimacy and connection to deeper levels and restore your core intention, when the relationship may have veered off the intended path.

As you choose, various play styles, toys, bondage and other practices are offered to expand and explore what you enjoy together.

My fees are $65/hr for discussion, body work, conscious movement, shadow work, to $100/hr for negotiated BDSM or Fetish oriented scenes. I am negotiable on my fees to be considerate of your financial reality. Sessions can be arranged to occur via email, phone or in person. In person sessions are in Portland, Oregon. To arrange a FREE initial discussion or to learn more, I invite you to contact me